Thursday, March 20, 2008
The Phantom Date
Ok peeps, here is the story behind the date that did not happen. Last time I saw New Guy was Sunday afternoon when he was working at the bar. I asked him where he would like to go for dinner and he said "surprise me". Ok -- so I put some time into thinking where we should go, what would be a nice place, where he may not have gone...that sort of thing. I give him a call on Monday to say hi and see what's up - no answer, so I leave a message. Did not get a call back. So I call the next morning - same thing, but being at work he would be busy so I didn't think much about it. Later that night (the night we were supposed to go out) I called and left a message saying that I figured he was busy and just to meet me at the restaurant at 8 pm after my exercise class. Then and only then, 2 HOURS BEFORE THE SUPPOSED DATE I get a call saying he can't go because he forgot his brother's birthday party. There are so many ways I could go with this I wont even start. Give me a break. This did not come as a complete surprise. As I mentioned earlier, I went to the bar to see him the other night. As it happens, the owner of the bar had purchased a PlayStation for the customers at the bar to use. New Guy was making good use of said PlayStation. For two hours straight. Call me stupid - or even a variety of other things which I richly deserve - but as much as I liked this guy, I want to be with someone who wants to be with me. Period. I am not going to settle for that. But more than anything, it really hurt my feelings. I really liked this one and he was the only one that I have introduced to my friends. My friends all told me I was too good to be chasing after a fry cook. I don't necessarily think that I am better than anyone because of their chosen profession, but I have come to the conclusion that I deserve better than what I got. Oh, and did I mention that I still haven't heard from him? Nothing. Not even a call pretending to say he was sorry for ditching me.
A friend of mine, who incidentally tends bar at the very same bar where New Guy works, gave me some advice a long time ago that seems not to have sunk into my thick head. He told me "Men. Are. Pigs." He is truly a sage amongst men. This time, I think I believe him. I have come to the conclusion that basically men are good for one thing and one thing only. And you know what it is. That and leaving - I guess that makes two things. So I have officially sworn off men, at least for dating purposes. I think I will stick to the two things that men are apparently good at...